Tuesday, May 26, 2015

WHAT IS JEALOUSY AND WHY DOES IT HURT SO MUCH? OSHO


                         One of greatest people who inspires me - Osho The Guru
Jealousy is comparison. And we have been taught to compare, we have been conditioned to compare, always compare. Somebody else has a better house, somebody else has a more beautiful body, somebody else has more money, somebody else has a more charismatic personality. Compare, go on comparing yourself with everybody else you pass by, and great jealousy will be the outcome; it is the by-product of the conditioning for comparison.
Otherwise, if you drop comparing, jealousy disappears. Then you simply know you are you, and you are nobody else, and there is no need. It is good that you don’t compare yourself with trees, otherwise you will start feeling very jealous: why are you not green? And why has existence been so hard on you – and no flowers? It is better that you don’t compare with birds, with rivers, with mountains; otherwise you will suffer. You only compare with human beings, because you have been conditioned to compare only with human beings; you don’t compare with peacocks and with parrots. Otherwise, your jealousy would be more and more: you would be so burdened by jealousy that you would not be able to live at all.
Comparison is a very foolish attitude, because each person is unique and incomparable. Once this understanding settles in you, jealousy disappears. Each is unique and incomparable. You are just yourself: nobody has ever been like you, and nobody will ever be like you. And you need not be like anybody else, either.
Existence creates only originals; it does not believe in carbon copies.
A bunch of chickens were in the yard when a football flew over the fence and landed in their midst. A rooster waddled over, studied it, then said, “I’m not complaining, girls, but look at the work they are turning out next door.”
Next door great things are happening: the grass is greener, the roses are rosier. Everybody seems to be so happy – except yourself. You are continuously comparing. And the same is the case with the others, they are comparing too. Maybe they think the grass in your lawn is greener – it always looks greener from the distance – that you have a more beautiful wife.... You are tired, you cannot believe why you allowed yourself to be trapped by this woman, you don’t know how to get rid of her – and the neighbor may be jealous of you, that you have such a beautiful wife! And you may be jealous of him....
Everybody is jealous of everybody else. And out of jealousy we create such hell, and out of jealousy we become very mean.
An elderly farmer was moodily regarding the ravages of the flood. “Hiram!” yelled a neighbor, “your pigs were all washed down the creek.”
“How about Thompson’s pigs?” asked the farmer.
“They’re gone too.”
“And Larsen’s?”
“Yes.”
“Humph!” ejaculated the farmer, cheering up. “It ain’t as bad as I thought.”
If everybody is in misery, it feels good; if everybody is losing, it feels good. If everybody is happy and succeeding, it tastes very bitter.
But why does the idea of the other enter in your head in the first place? Again let me remind you: because you have not allowed your own juices to flow; you have not allowed your own blissfulness to grow, you have not allowed your own being to bloom. Hence you feel empty inside, and you look at each and everybody’s outside because only the outside can be seen.
You know your inside, and you know the others’ outside: that creates jealousy. They know your outside, and they know their inside: that creates jealousy. Nobody else knows your inside. There you know you are nothing, worthless. And the others on the outside look so smiling. Their smiles may be phony, but how can you know that they are phony? Maybe their hearts are also smiling. You know your smile is phony, because your heart is not smiling at all, it may be crying and weeping.
You know your interiority, and only you know it, nobody else. And you know everybody’s exterior, and their exterior people have made beautiful. Exteriors are showpieces and they are very deceptive.
There is an ancient Sufi story:
A man was very much burdened by his suffering. He used to pray every day to God, “Why me? Everybody seems to be so happy, why am only I in such suffering?” One day, out of great desperation, he prayed to God, “You can give me anybody else’s suffering and I am ready to accept it. But take mine, I cannot bear it any more.”
That night he had a beautiful dream ÿ beautiful and very revealing. He had a dream that night that God appeared in the sky and he said to everybody, “Bring all your sufferings into the temple.” Everybody was tired of his suffering – in fact everybody has prayed some time or other, “I am ready to accept anybody else’s suffering, but take mine away; this is too much, it is unbearable.”
So everybody gathered his own sufferings into bags, and they reached the temple, and they were looking very happy; the day has come, their prayer has been heard. And this man also rushed to the temple.
And then God said, “Put your bags by the walls.” All the bags were put by the walls, and then God declared: “Now you can choose. Anybody can take any bag.”
And the most surprising thing was this: that this man who had been praying always, rushed towards his bag before anybody else could choose it! But he was in for a surprise, because everybody rushed to his own bag, and everybody was happy to choose it again. What was the matter? For the first time, everybody had seen others’ miseries, others’ sufferings – their bags were as big, or even bigger!
And the second problem was, one had become accustomed to one’s own sufferings. Now to choose somebody else’s – who knows what kind of sufferings will be inside the bag? Why bother? At least you are familiar with your own sufferings, and you have become accustomed to them, and they are tolerable. For so many years you have tolerated them – why choose the unknown?
And everybody went home happy. Nothing had changed, they were bringing the same suffering back, but everybody was happy and smiling and joyous that he could get his own bag back.
In the morning he prayed to God and he said, “Thank you for the dream; I will never ask again. Whatsoever you have given me is good for me, must be good for me; that’s why you have given it to me.”
Because of jealousy you are in constant suffering; you become mean to others. And because of jealousy you start becoming phony, because you start pretending. You start pretending things that you don’t have, you start pretending things which you can’t have, which are not natural to you. You become more and more artificial. Imitating others, competing with others, what else can you do? If somebody has something and you don’t have it, and you don’t have a natural possibility of having it, the only way is to have some cheap substitute for it.
I hear that Jim and Nancy Smith had a great time in Europe this summer. It’s so great when a couple finally gets a chance to really live it up. They went everywhere and did everything. Paris, Rome... you name it, they saw it and they did it.
But it was so embarrassing coming back home and going through customs. You know how custom officers pry into all your personal belongings. They opened up a bag and took out three wigs, silk underwear, perfume, hair coloring...really embarrassing. And that was just Jim’s bag!
Just look inside your bag and you will find so many artificial, phony, pseudo things – for what? Why can’t you be natural and spontaneous? – because of jealousy.
The jealous man lives in hell. Drop comparing and jealousy disappears, meanness disappears, phoniness disappears. But you can drop it only if you start growing your inner treasures; there is no other way.
Grow up, become a more and more authentic individual. Love yourself and respect yourself the way existence has made you, and then immediately the doors of heaven open for you. They were always open, you had simply not looked at them.
Osho, The Book of Wisdom, Talk #27

Monday, May 25, 2015

MISUSING OF CHILD WELFARE SERVICES NORWAY- MISBRUKING AV BARNEVERNET



"Dette er menneskehandel.
Enkelte prøver seg, når de ser folk kommer fra annet land så tror de barna kan rives løs fra familien sin med falske beskymringsmeldinger. Barnevernet blir ofte satt på sakene, ved at folk fra skole, barnehage, eller andre institusjoner kommer med en bekymringsmelding. Disse bekymringsmeldingene er ikke sjelden et resultat av misunnelse eller hat mot mot barnas foreldre. Ikke fordi de tror at barna deres har det dårlig. For en skam at slike folk tjener offentligheten! Ofte går denne bekymringsmeldingen mot foreldre og barn med utenlandsk opprinnelse. Mange av innvandrere er ikke like ressurssterke som etniske norske når det gjelder språk og kunnskap om hvordan det offentlige systemet fungerer. Derfor er de et lett bytte. Er det slik vi skal ha det i Norge, at folk skal misbruke barnevernet for å utøve makt mot de dem ikke liker? Det store behovet for nye fosterhjem, er nok dessverre et resultat av slike falske bekymringsmeldinger".

Today`s topic might be one of the most sensitive topic I have written so far. I have once told you this blog is not about Mascara or body progression through workout. 

I have decided to write this topic because of the frustration that I have after living in Norway for almost 14 years and see this happening over and over again. I heard people loosing children to the system and taken away from them to foster homes. I asked some of the parents what have they done to deserve it? There was no specific convincing reasons behind child removal act. Simplest thing from lack of toys, poor economy, child not behaving, parent who can not control their children`s behaviours. Why do I call it simple reasons well because the problem is temporary or can be fixed by social services if one wanted to. There are people who would rather work extra hard before they turn to social service for any sort of help. If  a child can sleep well and eat proper food that should not be a problem for someone to loose their children because of toys. If the economy is too poor then the family needs to be assisted with whichever means to make their life suitable to support the family as whole again. The stories went on and on and for sure what I noticed most children that were taken were foreigners. If a child was taken from Norwegian parents there were cases whereby alcohol, drugs, abandonment was part of the lifestyle. Still this was not it because after a while I started to understand things more clearly. I have friends that have been threatened that one will remove their children away. I have lost friends who had to travel back to their countries for fear of loosing their children through the system. It almost turned like everyone at least knew somebody who lost a child or being threatened to! 

Then I came to experience the nightmare by my own eyes. My husband being a Norwegian he assured me there is no one will ever take our child. He mentioned since none of us are irresponsible parents. We do not smoke, do drugs or drink any alcohol. Beside we have great life and super ambition left alone being intelligent responsible individuals. I should not be influenced by the stories goes around despite that I heard from the people so close to me. Of course I was so worried after a friend of mine almost lost her newly born twins because of false accusation of something she never does. Luckily enough they left the twins in peace and sorted things out into different ways and found all was a lie!

Whom should we all be aware of on such situations? If you are living in Norway you know what we call them barnevernet or child welfare services into english. They are people who protect children but unfortunately most of these offices are misused by institutes such as nursery and school system even to make situation worse some children clinic if a parent reject to vaccine the child. There was a case stood on the newspaper whereby a doctor threatened parents to child welfare services on something that was not obligatory. There are people who truly think they can just remove a child away from their parents simply because one comes from another country. They will sit and create a lie working strongly together as a team to break down a parent. In most cases where one is envious or jealous on parents they will blow a whistle as its called in places like London (in Norway we call it bekymringsmelding) as reporting a concerned upon a child based on lies. Not because of the child is having a bad life but too good life that makes people so irritated because they are frustrated with their personal lives. Is this how child welfare services should be misused in Norway? That we have to worship people for fearing them that they might break us down into any second because they have power to? Today I read on the paper that they need 100 foster homes at Møre og Romsdal county I do understand more children must be placed there when there is a lot of such false accusation. 

Never will I ever forget that day when suddenly my husband comes to me to inform that we have to report to the police station. I knew clearly there was no other reason for me to go there except for either renewing my resident permit but why was it too early? He told that was not the reason but our child was taken away because we were beating him up and mistreated at home. He was also taken to another city and we have to report there for further explanation. It was unbelievable first of all I changed a nursery school he previously attended because I dislike everything from that place. So after changing the nursery for almost over 2 months of him enjoy so much a the new one suddenly we became so dangerous. That is what I called welcome to Sunndalsøra. That was truly an official way of being welcomed. They say people into small places knows each other. You know what I mean that into small places everybody knows everybody but all I can say everybody knows nobody because all they receive is second hand wrong information. Unless one has spoken to someone directly but we have not even settled down to make anyone knows us as such. I have no idea even it will ever happen when false information spreading around on people others hardly know. Of course it affect on how others will treat you if one has a problem with you and act like they know everything better than yourself. After conversation with the police and child welfare offices we both disagree with the false accusation as my partner and I. They concluded that night that our child will not be returned until evaluation. It was truly unbelievable that one could collaborate as entire institute to just break us down. What was it that made them to report us after removing a child from their nursery school for almost 2 months plus that we suddenly are so dangerous to our child. The funniest part of all was the days they reported that a child was worried to come home I had evidence on my phone whereby I asked the nursery for free so that we can be home. Two of such events were written down and none of them my boy was even at nursery. Truth will always find a way. The next question was to ask why did they wait for so long and where did they have a prove a child was beaten? Was there any body mark? So they actually sat down and narrated lies against my family it seemed they truly had personal issues that we were hardly aware of. Only the ones I knew the women working there were surrounding me like flies each time I delivered my son at nursery trying to fish my personal information. I must have been too good to be true for them. They wanted to know all well I opened up for them I was a Master student in Cognitive and Biological Psychology, Translator, Fashion Designer, Stylist, Consultant, Songwriter, Artist both as in singing and drawing/painting and also managing our own recording studio. They asked and asked trying to find minus I guess they never succeed what sort of human am I who never drink or smoke and still have a huge smile each morning I met people and greet. I never mind whether one responded or not my mood is on because I believe into positiveness no matter what we go through life! Some asked if I had time to wear nice clothing and pamper myself daily and even compared themselves why they never went with nice clothing like me. I am a fashion designer and stylist for Christ sake I have to be presentable for my brand! Beside all African people are truly into fashion and we love trend no matter how much or less we have. Fashion is absolutely a must and being feminine through style and self pampering! Seriously I was in no competition and into my life I never believe even into competition. So all these questioning were actually asked so they could create their own story behind the hell they created for me. Others were so occupied to know which part of the house I live. It is impossible to be living in 4 floors house all by ourselves. Why not if the place has reasonable prices to buy a home why not a big home if prices are almost similar like any other house? They wanted to know more what I want to do into my future and plenty of questioning. I was there responding politely not knowing deep into their hearts some are into serious comparing issues and they do not find me being that foreigner of their expectation. I was suddenly beyond expectation I guess. That is  where they noted into the letter I was ignorant because I have better knowledge than workers. Oh my God never into my entire life ever told anyone I was better than them NEVER. My intention and aim is clear to assist people to be better version of themselves! If they thought I have achieved it all they are totally wrong. I have not even achieved quarter way of my dreams and they are already haunted by them! 

My boy was taken to the foster home for two days. Being removed from his home whereby his life was beautiful and secured to the people he hardly know. I will not say at all am bitter with social welfare services but the people who reported lies are problem here. These are the people we all must be aware of. They are so fake as they can be they act like they want to know you yet they are there to speculate on how they can gain status at their working place by handing in a child living in poor condition or simply show you they have power by taking a child away. On my case it started when I was not satisfied with the nursery they tried once to send me to report my family for nothing it failed. After we removed a child from their nursery school they suddenly had to report us for being extremely dangerous really. Like please the only thing I should be reported for is for being too good to be true for a foreigner. After all my hardworking years in Norway learning Norweagian, working, studying and finally I am ready to start working with my psychological competence someone tries to make it all vanish into a second? They know its so easy to break a foreigner because we do not have strong network either. Most are known for being violent not because we are but we are forced to be just as they tried hard to make me sound so violent that I deserve to loose my child through a system. They can not take it some foreigners are truly working hard to do great things not only to give us working status but we are now living in Norway and yes we want to work for Norway. For those who thinks I studied Psychology because it gives status you are so wrong I do this because I believe its something I am supposed to do. I never feel satisfied until I can approach someone and assist in one way or another. My aim is to make people believe into themselves and manifest their inner potentials. I am so thankful for the Sunndal Barnevernet as social welfare services to bring my boy back from foster home and finally they came to our home to see what sort of parents we are for almost 3 months follow up. They also observed how secured the boy was with his family. When we bought 4 floor house to create space and indoors activities for our children and move from big town was to provide best place and future for him- Not for being raised into foster homes! There is nothing my child points a finger at that he never receive. It might not be immediately but definitely he gets everything he wishes and well taken care of. That nightmare ended finally but still I will never forget the experience into my entire life. I truly hope so but then trying to bring me down by creating false accusation without apology is unbelievable! This actually was not first time even when I was staying in Trondheim another hateful worker from nursery tried to set me up. Trondheim is well known by foreigners with this practice even one office was reported that acted to help mothers but instead practiced child removal. We also got a visit from Child Welfare and they ended up the case because it was fake! I even asked the police what is wrong with some of these Norwegian women who thinks they can just lie to the system and what make them think foreign women have no love to their children. Are we birth machines? No we are not as the matter of fact we love our children badly. I would die for my children and fight for until the last breath but no one will ever make me stay muted because one thinks they got power. I know some foreigners are crying alone somewhere and even afraid to talk to media or open up because they are feared to be hated. Hate me or love me you mess up with me I will expose you and not leave a word. If the Norwegian system never works I would have gone for human rights and raised this matter. I am a grandchild of warriors and rulers from Ancient Empire that is still in power to date so giving up is not decoded into my DNA. I fight for what is mine and respect others privacy. 

I truly wish that all child welfare to first investigate all these cases brought to your tables because most are lies. They take children to foster homes whereby they loose identity and security. Some children truly deserve to be taken there because they are having bruises and all shows but instead they will be returned home and no one will say a thing. We have a case in Norway well one of them like Christopher who died after being mistreated by a step father until last breath. He was returned home but a foreigner child is over protected. One can just look at the parents and assume that they are so dangerous. If the parents are that dangerous why then isolating the child from their families that they have zero communication? One probably knows the children will cry to be returned home right? Is this sort of business that we are not aware of? This is what we call child abuse of the highest level because some of the children who were removed from secured home get traumatised. When my son was returned he has been having sleeping problems for over 4 months. Imagine that they tried to save him for a better life. Save him from what a luxurious life that they wish they had? It seemed some where so occupied of my lifestyle perhaps I do not deserve it? I am not where I am by chance or luck I deserve everything I own because I hardly sleep at times. Reading books and writing assignments trying to make things workout into this cold country is no joke. Most thinks if one is a foreigner by end of the month government pours in money to be used for free. As long as I am concerned I have no free life I pay for everything I am using! As I always say some people will make a foreigner criminal unwillingly. They will try to make you skeptical through social media by making you think we are so bad and dangerous. Most are not if someone like me who is highly ambitious and specialising into different things suddenly being accused for being violent! What is next someone putting drugs at our home or belongings and having police taking us to jail? Now we know this place and how to live into it after this experience! 

The common words always used is the foreigner parents misunderstands or lack knowledge of how Norwegian system works because of culture difference. This word culture difference I truly hate to hear it because for me it sounds like you have another ethnic background that is automatically culture difference. What is the culture difference when one dresses like  a Norwegian, Speak in Norwegian, Eat food from Norwegian Restaurants, Working with Norwegians, Studying with Norwegians, Partying at same places with Norwegians and serve the Norwegian country. Is this a smart way of saying to people we do not want to understand you either way after all you have sacrificed? As long as we are living here we should be included but still people who want to exclude others or take advantage of foreigners will always use a word culture difference! When someone goes wearing grass around their waistline, bare breast, bare foot walk into your offices or universities you can start to think of culture difference but most are assimilated and the only difference one can observe is the ethnic background. It is so sick to see that people misuse the organ which was created to save children who needed it most to practice power, hate, revenge, racism and discrimination. I hope one day this practice of child removal from foreigners for stupid reasons to be investigated and stopped for good. Where is Amnesty at and Redd Cross, Politicians who act to serve foreigners or Redd barna on such cases. This is the problem in Norway we have people will always ask you to donate to help third world. I normally tell such people that I have zero interest to help third world. Tell me the problem that found into third world that is not existing in Norway. I always say I stay in Norway my interest is to work for Norway. This means instead of saving children abroad they should start saving the children that are not taken by Boko Haram but by Norwegian Government which is not aware that its being misused by those who wants POWER over others! I am not criticising the government to take action of what they believe is right for people but those who run EVIL MISSION to destroy happy homes and families. Are these people truly happy? Are they happy with themselves? Are they happy with their relationship? for me anyone who truly understand the value of family or happy into their own private lives and relationship would not in million years break others down. I understand some people wants to play superior by being a helpful hand to foreigner by showing they are polite. The moment they see a foreigner is independent and living large they become hateful. Come on get a life and be happy one is not milking your country. Even the foreigners that are dependent of social services they wish not being part of its just matter of life circumstances. What can one do if no one is giving them jobs just because of their ethnic background? Its no wonder many foreigners moves away from small towns because they avoid people who wants to make themselves fame out of them. Since I moved from Sunndalsøra I have experienced a lot of people moving out. I met a Norwegian lady one time and she told me she hated this place because its not good for children. Her sister lost a child through a system and she had to move to protect her children. At the same time Sunndalsøra is warm place that opens up to all who wants to live here and wish more people. Will there be more people living here if some of those supposed to serve them are threatening them? Everyone one knows everyone is not true. I guess its time everyone living into small town to have direct contact with people than listening to rumours from someone you know telling you negativity about others. Most rumours are lies and fake to just ruin other`s reputation. Direct contact is the best for preventing negativity and false stories! This is indirect way of bullying adults practice. We should not give few people power to make others lives miserable! Challenge such people with prove until they cure themselves from rumours syndrome!

I came in peace and not in competition with anyone never will I ever be either. The moment one compete is already a looser. Challenges are great but competition is failure. So if you go around talking behind my back to make yourself more important or blocking my way just know destiny can only be delayed not blocked! If you are a foreigner who have gone through this or know someone going through this please never give up. Use all justice tools to help you even outside the Norwegian laws because there are international human rights, apply them. I do not mean the Norwegian parents who lost their children through system deserve it either. Some experience same thing as manipulation and lies. One would ask why couldn't others help them out. Well people tries to protect their positions thats why they will never go against their leaders or institute have you never heard of "Organisation Culture" you need to back up a buddy! What I love about Norway still there are a lot of different organisation one can report such cases. At times not even child welfare services are alerted they are being lied to by the people reporting such cases. Be aware of the person next to you remember NOT ALL SMILING ARE HAPPY FOR YOU. Watch out also for those who asks questions after questions and offer you less of their own personal information. You know what a great conversation sounds like but nothing like an interview. For you who have not yet learned or mastered the foreign language into the country you live use translators! As they monitor your moves monitor theirs for your own references these kind of people are everywhere around us. 


More about such cases follow the links below or google/youtube:
http://allafrica.com/stories/201411030601.html

http://www.utrop.no/Plenum/Kommentar/28935

https://www.facebook.com/NRKBrennpunkt/videos/10151997319460069/

http://www.newsinenglish.no/2012/01/24/store-involved-in-child-welfare-case/

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-3038084/Norway-taking-foreign-children-away-parents-highest-rates-inbreeding-world-Country-forced-deny-claims-Lithuanian-child-taken-care.html

http://www.norwaypost.no/index.php/news/latest-news/29713-mothers-are-deported-while-their-children-stay-in-norway

http://www.reddit.com/r/europe/comments/2oa5s8/czechs_are_panicking_about_norway_stealing/
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2088337/Norwegian-authorities-away-children-Indian-couple-eating-hands.html

http://english.pravda.ru/society/stories/12-08-2011/118735-norway-0/

Saturday, May 23, 2015

INGEN KOM PÅ BURSDAG (BIRTHDAY INVITATION NORWAY)



Hello,

Well this is a very interesting topic that has been covering a lot of media in Norway since 2013. As simple as birthday celebration might seem to be yet complicated it suddenly became. There has been a lot of different suggestion whereby some argue that no child should be left out and all must be invited. Others thinks children should only invite their friends and not any other person outside their circle. The rest meant children should decide who wants to be at their birthday party. I actually think it is correct that children choose whom they wish to spend their special day with. After all am so traditional. I still enjoy gathering of only closest meaningful people into my life than bunch of strangers just to act social!

Those who mean that all children must be invited have also seen consequences of this. It ended up most children not showing up at their peer`s birthday celebration. Most papers have written how heartbreaking the children were when nobody showed up. If you can read norwegian you can read an article from http://www.nrk.no/ytring/makten-i-en-bursdagsinvitasjon-1.11407114 This article explains that from already nursery school children already create their network based on popularity. It  shows who worth more to invite than the other. This is one of the reasons I think why we should allow children to choose their own friends who will never let me down on their special day. As young as a child might be we have to be aware most are very smart and know exactly what they want and who makes them comfortable. For those who argue that by inviting all children is one of the best way to include everybody are totally wrong. Why do I say this that it is wrong that children should only be visible on birthday celebrations and invisible rest of the days? It is not secret that excluding and isolation is happening around us every single day. Everyone keeps their doors closed and open only for the people they feel comfortable with. Children after school might end up being by themselves because some of their friends might not be living at the same neighbourhood. At times the neighbourhood can be full of children but some parents thinks their children are way better than others to be playing together. Despite the fake smiles most children will be either lonely playing by themselves with their own siblings or chosen friends their parents approved. Well so if you think that only one day is so meaningful for the child who is excluded with others is everything think twice. If parents truly wants to make children feel included and not left out they should start by simple friendship with one another. I am talking about parents to get to know each other before their children even create friendship. This is also one of the greatest way to prevent bullying. Because some of the parents mean if children are invited they will be less bullied that is not how it works out. Do you think some of the children are comfortable to invite bully at their homes to have more details about them? This is whereby most parents can not decode the point and invite everybody then very few show up or absolutely none. Some parents would never even greet each other or respond to a warm hello but they expect other parents to take their children into their homes because their children have birthday. What about showing little bit of concern on those who tries to give one warm greeting? This might be one of the reasons some of parents decide not to bring their children to such parents home no matter how friendly their children might be. To make the matter worse this part of inclusiveness follows with birthday gifts. That means to be included one has to pay for it after the party no one will even play with that child again or ever be invited! What is the point that only one day should be very meaningful than all other 363 or 364days per year? I think if parents truly wish their children not to be left out they should skip that pay for a day to be included (birthday gift) and get involved instead into every single day of the year.

Listen to the children carefully what they want and whom they want to be around. They might not be open to how they relate themselves into others but they also have feeling not least one must respect their decisions. At times grown ups thinks children are just like robot or same as they do with fish one just pour them into aquarium without think which of them have special attachment. Why cause depression on children at a very young age by forcing them friendship with those they feel less comfortable with? The best think you can learn a child is to be polite with one another. If all tries their best to be polite they will be collaborating automatically with each other and still choose their best friends. We have to respect children to choose their own friends than interrupting their choices of creating social bond. By inviting the people they wish to celebrate with on their special day will turn their day more beautiful. Imagine yourself as an adult that all your special event you have to invite you entire office to join you, how wonderful will this be? You have friends for sure outside your working network. Your family perhaps are special people you wish to invite and some of your neighbour. At times its not a matter of number that is a problem no matter how less an event might cost or even if others offer to take their own food to celebrate you. It  is a matter of quality time and network. Please do not misunderstand me when I say quality I do not value people with their account digits into bank but characteristics. Those type of personality that blend with yours automatically and gives one inner joy!

Another thing is those parents who feel so bad for their children not be invited. Please learn your children that not all events concern them. Imagine each time your child sees balloons outside the house they want to go in. Or that your neighbourhood people have to hide to create parties because they must force themselves to invite your child. Why can`t we respect other people`s choices and privacy? It is very important to learn children that being everywhere whereby they have nothing to do with is awkward. So what if its a classmate`s event and they never received a card. Will that make their lives difficult? Learn them to understand that their classmates have choices of whom they want to invite. Learn them that its not important to be everywhere and call that popularity. After all special people are not just everywhere and perhaps your child might be one of the special people on planet. Who knows this what can results for being excluded. Do you think depression follows? It only follows if you allow it or feeling pity for oneself. One has to learn children to feel complete without attachment of anyone else. Learn children to be independent individuals who needs no approval of others and degrade themselves for being social accepted by others. I believe friendship should be mutual and nobody should sacrifice anything I there is no special connection. Only being polite to others should be important. So please stop making children feel sorry for themselves because events passes them by. One can not catch up to all world`s event not least talk of those you have to take a piece of wrapped gift to be part of.

It seems like some people thinks all people living in Norway are super rich. This is not the case some parents might not want to invite the whole classroom because they have poor economy. By this it means not that one starves but they can not just afford the pressure around them. The children will be comparing who had the best party. Who received the best present and suddenly simple celebration turns to competition to gain popularity. These differences is what makes children drop some parties if they know one of their friends only throw an ordinary party of no excitements or goody bags after! Not mentioning some wish not either to show their homes to everyone because they are afraid of being evaluated after. Then the next option one has is to rent out place whereby birthday event will be carried out. Suppose one has not enough to create this place with fabulous decoration and make the event truly great? Some children get disappointed by their parents who can not keep up to the standard. The entire birthday celebration turn to business and show off. Not all parents can afford this no matter how important you think birthday celebration is. One might say it costs so little that one can save to create great day for a child because it happens only once per year. You have no idea what others are going through that they need every single kroner, pound or dollar to pay for something else. It could have been a broken car or something in the house that needs renovation. If you truly think those parents who choose not to throw big parties are bad think twice. Try to put yourself into different situation.

For any parent who has a child that is not invited at all never make them feel self pity. Children care less about these things until adults turn them into big deal. If a child has not been invited there could be many reasons. Perhaps one just selected few ones because they also have other of their family members or friends from different schools invited. Perhaps they are not even your child`s best friend or network. That no one is there to celebrate a child at all sounds really strange. What about family members like old days? I am old fashioned I told you that before so do things traditionally by inviting granny, aunties, uncles and their children unless you are living far from your relatives. Only our relatives can fill the house and make celebrations worth to have. If one can afford to buy a special gift it is 100 times better to save for that and make the day different from the rest of the days. Tell your children how much you love them and how special they truly are. Those isolated if they are well nurtured can turn into GENIUSES and TALENTED INDIVIDUALS believe it or not. Do not break your children`s self-esteem by making them feel sorry for themselves for not being included. Tell them they are way to special for everybody else who tries to exclude them. Not all those who do not fit it are bad but at times being exceptional is price to pay being into your own world. Encourage your children to think positive because they will turn to the future that will benefit the universe. For parents who can afford to create a great day for their children take them to exotic places to enjoy their special day. Instead of inviting the entire class that will never show up what about doing things that will give a child so much joy? Vacation? Tusenfrydd? Disneyland? Legoland? You know your child better than anyone find something of their interest and make it happen that day!



The problem of children being excluded in Norway is not only on the birthday but every single day. Some people do not want to talk about it whereas others prevent their children to create friendship with their peers because one might have personal issues or simply xenophobia. Who can create a change? Of course its the parents by teaching their children to be polite to each other. If only children where learned to be polite to one another they're would not be bullying either. By doing this could also promoted friendship that even if one is not invited into homes or events still is part of other peers in one way or another.

#Learn children to love themselves and not make those who thinks they are less important worthy!

Thursday, May 21, 2015

Rada Manojlovic - S mora na planine (Official HD Video)





I guess she sings about how she will win Ms. Universe! To be honest I have no idea what the song mean. Beautiful woman and nice place. And nice song of course :)

Monday, May 18, 2015

REVIEW OF PLANET EARTH FROM AUSTRONAUTS



One of the  blogger`s interest is this. I share a piece of things that moves me and fascinates my inner being! Enjoy yourselves :)

Sunday, May 17, 2015

17th MAY- HURRA FOR NORWAY

Day started with preparation of finding what to wear on Norwegian national day. I know its that kind of day people wear their traditional clothing from Norway but little bit of African Royal Touch never hurts nobody. After all its elegant and beautiful the only difference from what Norwegian wear instead of silver we go with 24 carats gold, sapphire and ruby! Dress for occasion is what we call it! Respecting also special event by looking accordingly no club wear either ;) My man had his suit and the future prince rocked his suit too. He is just way too handsome for cyber! After all I think children should be respected and not be online until they feel ready for that. Only us adult can handle cyber madness at times! Celebrating Norwegian national day is a must for me no matter how negative media try to portray those from other countries. We celebrate with Norwegian because not all thinks like what media brainwash them. I wonder why they always leave out great foreigners who do wonders and positive things. I believe the greatness seen as competition at times or some stereotypes thinks people from other places can never be good no matter how good they are... 
We will march with you side by side Norway and Celebrate with you! Some of us were created to achieve greatness no matter what the media preach they wont tear our spirit down. After all we were all created for greatness unless you deny your uniqueness, because you were made to think embracing your inner potential is wrong! 


Beautiful accessory custom made just for me! 
    Children marching with beautiful sound indeed showing they truly have been doing their homework!
The man in white suit I call him King of Drums- Jo Inge Nes. I had great fun one time to perform with him live at the concert with his entire band Fjord og Fjell! He is really Good! He plays all types of drums.


Some went to church for prayers! 

Norwegian traditional wear it varies in color depending which county one comes from! I think ladies looks beautiful into long dresses no matter what we wear at times.
Russ? 
What is this for you who reads this blog and might be from Bahrain or United States. Well this is part of the tradition to party and celebrate accomplishment of high school in Norway. Books at times needs to be celebrated when one is done with exams. I think reading is unhealthy in a way how its structured that student spend most time inactive reading. There should be other activities during studies that allows more of freedom of movement. Its no wonder school can tend to be boring place on planet at times. This is the last day they celebrate I guess the partying goes of for weeks before exams. One has to also be very careful that they have read enough so that this period they can just detox their mind before FINALS! 

Black Russ

Red Russ. While a lot of newspaper has been covering negative events that occurred at this period of Russ. We have to share also positive news that not everywhere Russ have been disturbing others. Sunndalsøra russ have been very positive even the russ from places like Tingvoll have been sending money to Cancer Department. It is important to let teens enjoy this moment and try not to make all seem bad just because they wear this red or black overalls! 

(Ordføreren of Sunndalsøra. I have been selecting the perfect photo to post but this man is photogenic. He looked absolutely great into all photos. Well there I am too not my day looking great on the photo! At least I tried..)

Ice-Cream is part of Norwegian Tradition and sausage eating on this day. I had enjoyed my sausage last night. Come on well you just read that but well I enjoyed cotton candy and Ice Cream too today! 

While I tried to take a photo of my husband he made this typical Selfie Pose which all selfie lovers can identify. I just laughed so hard!

Natasha Shyrose Chilling at home: 
What was I not thinking tired after preparing 5 dinner course within an hour. I had forgotten that despite I leave into small town the restaurants were opened. But my cooking is 100 times better so eating home is best choice ever for my family. I also enjoy cooking just that today was not that kind of a day I should have used time in the kitchen I got too much to do! Too much to do for making 5 dinner course at least 3 including desert could have been okay! Everyone had a wonderful day and we had free cinema but only my boys left for that to enjoy themselves: I had stuff to do at home like reading and making food. Entire city enjoyed free movie its part of celebration Sunndalsøra added to 17.May! Amazing :) 

I wish you a great week! 

CONGRATULATIONS TO ROSENBORG TOO!! THIS IS MY FAVOURITE TEAM IT SCORED 5 YESTERDAY! 







Saturday, May 16, 2015

I skip leg day | The smart ebike





What a song and a video!

Ebike commercial went beyond but remember to workout your entire body if you are planning to build muscles!